Yekaterina Tsipenyuk O'Neil
2e Coach
Neurodiversity Advocate
Ex Cybersecurity Professional
This book is the story of a bilingual family that unexpectedly faced the challenges of both profound giftedness (that Griboyedov-like wit) and special needs (its woes)—autism, dyslexia, ADHD—that is, the world of twice-exceptionality, or 2e. Misunderstood by those around them, who only saw their children’s deficits, these parents survived an endless series of assessments, diagnoses, therapies, reports, frustrations, anxieties, and doubts; resorted to an involuntary transition to homeschooling; and went through the five stages of grief, starting with denial (this is some kind of mistake), anger (no one understands what we are dealing with), bargaining (we just need to get through one more therapy, and then everything will be fine), depression (nothing helps), and finally acceptance. However, despite such misfortunes, this is also a story about re-examining perspectives, rethinking values, and experiencing numerous epiphanies about the meaning of learning vs. education, the definition of happiness vs. success, and the value of being vs. doing.
What do you do when you find out your kids are both gifted and have learning differences? That was my problem about a decade ago.
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To preface my story, I live in California, where I moved with my parents from Ukraine in 1996, with my husband — a San Francisco Bay Area native — and two kids: the eldest just turned 16, and our youngest is 13. Both are twice-exceptional or 2e, which means gifted (profoundly gifted
in our case, in fact) and having a learning difference at the same time. In other words, while both have a very high IQ (exceptionality number one), our son is on the autism spectrum, and our daughter is stealthily dyslexic (exceptionality number two).
There are many books on giftedness in English — though I have come across only a couple on profound giftedness — and there are some on twice-exceptionality. However, my extensive search uncovered none in Russian, my native tongue. In general, there are so few resources in Russian on the topics of neurodiversity, giftedness, learning differences, twice-exceptionality, and strengths-based talent-focused practices (which are essential for supporting these unique populations) that I decided to try to fill that void first. Now, however, it is time to share the same story with the English-speaking audience from the perspective of not just twice, but thrice-exceptional family — gifted, learning different, and culturally diverse.
I am neither a psychologist, nor a teacher, neither a writer, nor a journalist — I am simply the mother of my children (though while I was getting ready to share my writing in the public domain I went back to school to become a doctoral student in cognitive diversity in education), and I want to tell our story. As one of the dyslexia specialists told me when I complained that the experience gained with my son does not seem to be helping us at all with our daughter, it’s time to write a book – it’s my destiny, it seems.
Publications
Neurodiversity
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O’Neil, Y. (2025). Displaced twice-exceptional Russophone families in the United States: An exploratory study [Manuscript submitted for publication]. Bridges Graduate School of Cognitive Diversity in Education.
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O’Neil, Y., & Baum, S. (in press). Using workplace strategies to build goal setting, reflection, and executive function skills for gifted students. Teaching for High Potential.
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O’Neil, Y. (2024, March 25). Chatting about twice-exceptionality with a speech and language pathologist. REEL 2e.
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Cybersecurity
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Yeung, C., Iqbal, U., O’Neil, Y.T., Kohno, T., & Roesner, F. (2023). Online advertising in Ukraine and Russia during the 2022 Russian invasion. In Ding, Y., Tang, J., Sequeba, J., Aroyo, L., Castillo, C., & Houben, G.-J. (Eds.), Proceedings of the ACM web conference 2023 (pp. 2787–2796). Association for Computing Machinery. https://doi.org/10.1145/3543507.3583484
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Munoz, A. & O’Neil, Y. (2016, May). Static detection of ORM-through vulnerabilities [Paper]. HPE TechCon 2016 Conference.
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HPE Security Research. (2016, February). The HPE cyber risk report 2016 [White paper].
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O’Neil, Y.T. (2015, March). Crypto manifesto 2015 [White paper]. HP Security Research.
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HP Security Research. (2015, February). Cyber risk report 2015 [White paper].
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O’Neil, Y.T., Forsythe, J.M., & Munoz, A. (2014). Automatic detection of inadequate authorization checks in web applications using static analysis [Paper]. HP TechCon 2014 Conference.
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O’Neil, Y.T. (2009, March). Crypto manifesto [White paper]. Fortify Software.
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Tsipenyuk, K., Chess, B., & McGraw, G. (2006). Seven pernicious kingdoms: A taxonomy of software security errors. In Fong, E. (Ed.), Proceedings of workshop on software security assurance tools, techniques, and metrics (pp. 36-43). U.S. National Institute of Standards and Technology (NIST) Special Publication (SP) 500-265. https://doi.org/10.6028/NIST.SP.500-265
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Interviews
Neurodiversity
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Lopes, M. (2025, September 21). Why American parents are abandoning public schools. The Straits Times.​​​
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Kadvany, E. (2017, December 15). Why families choose to home-school in Palo Alto. Palo Alto Online.​​
Cybersecurity
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Huang, R. (2024, April 8). Sparking 25,000 career conversations. OpenText Blogs.
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